Some thoughts

I was reading FP forum.. and came across this post..

gal and guy have been tgt for 4 yrs. guy demands gal to wear "more branded" clothes as image to him is impt. t-shirt n jeans is a no-no for him.. de gal has to wear spag at least. they had small quarrel, which eventually leaded to their first break up. guy broke into gal's house to take back everythg he bought for her. 1 month later, de guy came kneeling down at her hse to ask for forgiveness. guy confessed to gal tat he had sex wif some gal ("X") tat he knew fr a pub. gal forgave guy after de guy promised tat he will change his temper & abusive behaviour.

afterwhich, de guy confessed another time to gal tat he had sex wif his ex colleague.

WHY? --> "cos he wanted to make sure who he loves, who he wans to be wif".

quoted from the gal -->

" sex to him is like an escape, knowing tat it will hurt me the most. i couldnt tink straight but i forgave him not knowing wad to do & how to react, and he proposed. He told me not to be so naive and tat all guys hav sex outside the r/s and tat he is being faithful by telling me de truth while most guys will not tell their gfs".

guy tells gal tat she has to accept his proposal as his relatives are aware of this "proposal" already, if not gal will be makin him lose face. guy threatened gal to take away the "pet" they had wif ever since dey got togeda.

quoted from the gal -->

"i am reali attached to de pet and hav been taking care of him. He said tat de pet signifies us and since we have broken up, he wants it back. Wen i refused to return to him, he barged into my hse, grabbed de animal and tie him in a plastic bag and put it in his bike's box. He said tat if i want my pet back, i hav to patch up wif him. I agreed knowing tat my pet will die suffocating in the plastic bag. Reporting to de police is uesless bcos he is not afraid".

"i still feel insecure & uncertain bout everythg esp my own future, but i hav tis sad tout in my mind. He told me tat no other man will wan a gal like me cos i hav given my virginity to him & in de end i wld realise he is de only one who wants me. It makes me feel dirty & disgusted wif myself & i suddenly hav 2nd thoughts bout myself".

Its scary hearing such stories.. pple change.. and whether its the truth/ lie.. its reali hard to tell sometimes..

The guy seems emotionally & mentally unstable. To have "sex" as an escape or is it an excuse for forgiveness?? If marriage comes into place, will such incidents not happen again? Its tormenting to follow orders from such a guy.. and even worse, an abusive one. Violent in a r/s? Totally let-down! For someone hu can take his pet as a threatening object.. wads worse if they hav kids in future? The innocent child will be de threatening object?? *ponders* SIGH!